Angry Transman at Smith College

 

Received this email last night, two disturbing features I'd like to address, one is obvious, the other isnt. The obvious issue I'll address is the refrain by many a female transitioner when they encounter strong Butch women, that we surely must somehow be "trans in denial". This accusation more than anything illustrates these transmen's notions of woman and the strict adherence to woman based on visual cues fed to us by society. It illustrates the fear and insecurity female transitioners have and shines a bright spotlight on why they seek to transition. Rather than live and carry their femaleness in ways that is comfortable for them, ways that might question and strain society, they fearfully try to opt out of being female altogether convincing themselves they're "born in the wrong body". As a Butch woman, I was born in the right body! It may have been a difficult road to get comfortable on, but one things for sure, it was well worth the struggle!

The second issue I'd like to address about this email is where it came from, Smith College per the header information. So here is a student at a WOMAN'S college who hates herself, is likely some form of transMAN and from the tone alone, sees herself as something more than female as female contempt underlines her every word. I pity any young woman or women who have to share dorm facilities with her, her female hatred is seethingly strong. 

To sum up, we have a scared young woman who hates herself and other women because she's too afraid to live a life not accepted by society yet depends on the shelter from the same women she hates and has contempt for. 

And the "queer/trans" community wonders why lesbians want nothing to do with either of them, like it isnt painfully fucking obvious! 

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Friday's Poll Discussion

Please use this post to discuss todays poll question regarding the female partners of transmen.

Open Comments

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Trans Trending-Who is Tranitioning

In a world where misogyny is king, there is always a fresh supply of female bodies for the flames.

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In Response to some Responses

I (a lesbian) wrote a post on my (a lesbian) blog, regarding lesbians/lesbian community and seeking responses from lesbians in an open environment. Shortly after a handful of responses from lesbians, there came a deluge of comments from transmen and a few male transitioners. I closed the open comments and deleted the remaining anti lesbian comments. Two striking things stand out from these deleted comments: 1) the post in question dealt with the results of Friday's poll regarding transmen in the lesbian community and 2) Femme as a mindless fuck hole with no will or desire of her own.

Striking problem number 1) The issue being discussed was how the "queer" set, particularly transmen have ran roughshod over the lesbian community in the last decade or so, creating a less than lesbiancentric atmosphere. So what happens here? In run the transmen to tell lesbians that they aren't disrespecting lesbians or lesbian spaces. I'm being polite by using "disrespecting" rather than their hate filled words. By commenting attacking posts strictly for lesbians, YES you ARE disrespecting lesbians! If you are a man now, then go on and be a man within straight society or gay male culture. Men aren't lesbians and do not belong when lesbians are trying to have some lesbian community and lesbian intimacy. There are always Pride days and the like for bringing the various communities together to commingle. The Lesbian community isn't one big Pride day open to all with open legs. Lesbians aren't here like good mothers to prop up the pseudo trans-masculinity of scared, insecure transmen nor are lesbians expected to coddle transmale fears by letting transmen hide under the skirt of the lesbian community and it is completely wrong and unfair for transmen to think otherwise!

Striking problem number 2) Femme lesbians. There were quite a few comments from transmen exclaiming Butch lesbians do not want transmen in the Butch/Femme community because we're all just "jealous" because the transmen are "taking all" our "Femmes"! No, I did NOT make that up. It was said and reiterated. My first thought is the Butch/Femme community isn't some version of Ellis, Hall and the fucking Well! Femme lesbians are their very own individual dykes, they aren't carnival cupie doll prizes for who looks more like a man, which btw Butch lesbians do not remotely resemble! Femmes lesbians ARE LESBIANS! There is no Butch-transmen competition for actual Femme LESBIANS! Femmes lust after Butch emotions, Butch sensitivity, Butch softness, Butch skin, Butch knockers, Butch pussy and the smell of Butch pussy, period. Femmes love and lust after a WOMAN'S body, hence the whole LESBIAN thing. Its not rocket science, but it is my favourite chemistry class!

So much for lesbian respect and support from the greater "queer" alphabet.

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The Lesbian Community and the Trouble with Trans(men)

Here is a pie chart of Friday's poll with an overwhelming majority choosing transmen as the largest cause for the plundering of the Lesbian community. Lesbian have long remained strong against keeping out male transitioners and rightly so, but we were lax when it came to female transitioners with a lesbian history.

We didnt foresee how testosterone would change them internally; we didnt foresee like their breast, their womanness and lesbianness would also be removed and incinerated from their being, we didnt foresee how the acquiring of male privilege would change them so, we didnt foresee how testosterone and male privilege would lead them to sexually objectify us, we didnt foresee they would bring privileged straight women into our mix, we didnt foresee them urging others in our mix onto transition, we didn't foresee them sleeping with men while still demanding access to our community, we didnt foresee a whole lot of things.

Young lesbians everywhere are suffering, lost and without a community because we failed to keep our community safe from men, any man or females calling themselves men. We have been shamed, threatened with violence and rape and screamed at for "transphobia" whenever we spoke up and declared ourselves Lesbians. Lesbian has become a dirty word, and those of us who refuse to "queer" ourselves by standing our lesbian ground, dirty with it.

We have a future to create, what would you like to see change for lesbians/the lesbian community? And what are you prepared to do to make those changes happen?

This is an open post for the female bodied.

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